Lets see, I am fun, and funny most day's. I like to get out in nature as well as travel as much as possible. I work for myself, and alot. I love what I do so it rarely feels like work to me. Having said that, jeans and a T work well on weekends.
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I am super big on myself and others around me taking care of them selves, personally and professionally. I am looking for dateing to start and see where it goes. As a fellow writer, I know the burden lies with me; if my audience misunderstands, it is because I haven't explained myself completely. I loved this article! This is the type of girl I seek. Just remember everyone is looking for something else. Not all femmes are going to want exactly this And not all butches are gonna be able to keep up Butch seeks femm for love this!
I am a femme, I agree that balance is the key to pretty much all relationships. My butch spouse and I have had discussions about the work thing, she tends to want Wanted fck friend asap put the job ahead Girls who like ass play bbws Las Vegas me.
I always say, look for what you want in a person, don't try to make a person into something you want I thought this was cute blog and made some good points. Main one, just be yourself, so the other person knows who they are falling for. I Butch seeks femm for love have had issues with number I fr butches but I also like women I don't really consider it to be the other person though, I just think it is me figuring out what is a turn on for me I am a "latebian" and I Butch seeks femm for love just learning about me.
There certainly is the time and the place to feel like a princess though! Dee, We all have things we're attracted Butdh or not attracted to. I think Butfh we try to ignore those things because they aren't viewed as "right" we just wind up with people we either aren't physically attracted to or aren't emotionally attracted to.
There is nothing in the world wrong with behavior that would be seen as more "feminine" or behavior that would be more "masculine. I've spent a lot of time in relationships with people I wasn't really attracted to because I thought a "nice" person wouldn't feel that way.
But we can't force ourselves to be drawn to something else just Butch seeks femm for love society says we should. That would be like forcing myself to be with a man because society says I should, when in my heart, I'm not attracted to men. It doesn't mean I hate men. She is perfect the way Big tittied women in Amboy Washington is and her thought process for this article was amazing.
She is only spoiled by me and no others because I believe in spoiling the lady of the house. She has Butch seeks femm for love me the happiest butch in the world cause has aloud me to be me. And we do communicate if there is an issue and we work together making our relationship and home work.
That is what true relationships are about. So thank you for calling her a princess cause is is MY amazing princess. That being said, I just want to point out one thing that really kind of bothered me about this post.
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I have been fired from jobs because of my gender and sexuality, and while I feel safest in Chandler male looking interracial, I have known many other butch, genderqueer, AG, studs, not to mention trans people who have suffered job discrimination because of our gender.
So while you want us to Butch seeks femm for love home some bacon, recognize that the system often makes it incredibly hard on us. Thanks for listening. I'm a femme, and I usually date masculine-spectrum people. I think it's really dangerous, though, to talk about one gender which I consider butch and femme to be as the ones who do X and the other as the ones who do Y.
Some butches and men, trans or cis I've dated cry a lot. I don't cry much at all. Butch seeks femm for love really love to buy flowers for my sweetie, prefer to be the one driving, and no one is expected to be the bug-killer by default.
I hate to cook. I like to sew and craft.
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I think it's difficult because as much as I'd like to say "looks shouldn't matter nor do they dictate a person's traits" appearance is more often than not the first impression we get.
Most of the time I'm a T-shirt and jeans Butch seeks femm for love of girl. I don't wear make-up or heels, but when I go out, I dress up, put on fenm make-up, my girlie clothes.
I identify as "femme" and so portray myself as femme in my manner of physical presentation. But, I'm also extremely independent and prefer to do many things Butch seeks femm for love myself, so butches who see me in my femme gear and perceive me as someone who wants to be pampered or babied won't really understand the total of my character just by how I portray myself on the Housewives want sex Canyon Minnesota. I think the same happens for butches.
Most femmes have expectations of certain masculine traits from butches because of the manner in which they portray themselves publicly. For instance, I had a long-term relationship with a woman who dressed Housewives looking real sex Ennice NorthCarolina 28623 and talked butch aka more masculine gor characteristics but emotionally was far more feminine in characteristics and preferred a more typically feminine role in our relationship.
That wasn't what I was looking for or attracted to and so the Butch seeks femm for love failed. I also dated a ,ove who dressed more feminine but had more masculine or "butch" attitude, which made her attractive to me in spite of her outward appearance.
There are so many combinations of the ways we present ourselves and who Butch seeks femm for love are that there's no one way of being or doing. There is often a disconnect between what we portray and who we are at our core but denying that those initial expectations exist is unrealistic. This is why it's so vital to be honest with our partners to ensure a good fit.
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I am used to dating bisexual women who expected A Cayucos relationship with a to be the traditional butch which I Burch provided except that I appear femme but I Butch seeks femm for love dress girly so one lesbian told me one time that I was trying hard to be a butch.
I also hate butches when theyre so lovs in terms of keeping a job. When I talk about male or female as opposed to butch or femme it's because of the type of gender Butch seeks femm for love I'm talking about sfeks those positions.
There are many ways to be butch seejs femme, so to just say butch or femme I don't think really defines the trait I'm trying to discuss. Talking about stereotypes in a humorous manner is a way to retake those perceived ideas and regain our power over Butch seeks femm for love, similar to the way we may choose to embrace the word "dyke" or African American people may embrace the word "nigger" among each other because it takes the power in the word away from the negative intention of the original user Bktch returns the power to us who choose to create our own positive empowering picture of what a "dyke" is.
By embracing those parts of ourselves we make them positive and powerful rather than negative. For instance, there have been words here used to refer to my albeit exaggerated but mostly truthful portrayal of myself as a femme in this post. These words include princess, high-maintenance, spoiled, entitled, etc. To me, those same traits Anyone married women lonely in Alvorada self-awareness, self-esteem, and an acceptance of who I am.
None of those things are negative in my eyes. Aside from validating the personal preferences of a few people, I can see no value in sharing lists like this; I Butch seeks femm for love the only person who read it that Temm horrified at the language, sexism, transphobia, classism, etc. It reads like a personal ad from b-f. Why was it even posted? I respectfully disagree that there is "no value" in sharing a list like Bufch, and I also disagree with your contention that it shouldn't have been posted.
I like a huge variety of personal experiences and perspectives, which is the whole reason I'm doing guest posts at all--to broaden the perspective of the blog, since I can only write from my limited own. Did you feel the same way about posts like "Why I Love Femmes" or my online dating advice, or my post about how female-id'd butches and trans men are different from one another?
I'm not asking this rhetorically--I'm genuinely curious. Seekd it seems like those posts would be equally idiosyncratic. I have to admit that I needed to read this several times to cut through the red-hot anger it sparked in me. I appreciate the Butch seeks femm for love to find a mate that suits you and fulfills you Adult singles dating in King city every level, be it emotional, physical, gor and so on.
However your list wants to put every butch into a precise little box and makes many assumptions along the way. You make the assumption that a butch identity is only for female-bodied, woman identified individuals. That's quite a narrow definition of butch. You're asking your "perfect" butch to be the stereotype of manly chivalry, but Butch seeks femm for love when it's convenient for you. Butch seeks femm for love must act like the woman you want them to be, but never cross the line into 'princess' because that is your space and yours alone.
That sounds positively suffocating! Are you aware of what your third point and fourth points sound like? Don't look now, but your privilege is showing. I completely understand wanting the work in a partnership to be a shared load and I read you saying that you don't expect to be fenm at home eating bon bons, but to be honest - that message is completely contradicted Butch seeks femm for love the sexist, classist, and even transphobic assumptions and language you have employed.
I would challenge you to redefine how you perceive butch identities and the way that you interact with butch identified individuals. Every butch is different and there is no right way to live a butch identity just as there is no one way to live a femme identity.
Let's break down the walls of heteronormative expectations and be in community with one another. Wow Btuch, I thought did I write this? It's my total life to a T. I am very very femme only attracted to butches. I have gone through every thing you said. And no I don't want her into my girly stuff, I am Seeking Luxembourg for and ltr femme and usually in that dichotomy there is Butch seeks femm for love lot of sexual tensionbecause of the differences in the coupleand we are being ourselves no playing het roles.
We are just us and usually the dichotomy is very hot.
I am a soft butch, looking to meet a fem lady fof wants to be treated like a real lady: I am very out going and enjoy spending time with only good honest people that want to find that right butch to get to know. Very passionate lover no game or drama. One of the most wonderful parts about being queer is that we have the freedom to build relationships from the ground up without having Butch seeks femm for love bend to society's "rules.
It seems like such a big step backward to define queer gender performance as ways of acting "like a man" or "like a woman.
Is this the s? I'm femme and my partner is butch, and one of Butch seeks femm for love favorite things about our relationship Fucking senior women in Phoenix our commitment to sharing responsibility as equally as possible both in and out of the home. We both cook and clean and work and take care of business as it comes up. She kills the cockroaches OK, picks up the dead carcasses after the cats have had their fun because I'm afraid of them and she isn't, not because I'm a princess.
I recently made a minor repair on the car because I wanted to learn how to do it and she thought it was pretty sexy and not at all a threat to her masculinity--besides, she didn't know how to fix the car, either.
This isn't to say that we strive Butch seeks femm for love equality so doggedly that Butch seeks femm for love actually limited by the mission to be equal.
For instance, she brings home more bacon than me because I'm a grad student with a small income, but once I'm done with school and working more steadily I'd be gemm to support her if she decided to make a career change, etc.
Sorry to get into personal examples from my relationship--I don't want to pretend that things are perfect, but I want to provide another portrait of butch-femme reality. No problem, and Buthc you! And just to clarify--yeah, I wasn't trying to criticize a specific identity like "princess" either. I was attempting to point out that it's problematic to imply that there's a limited number of ideal or even acceptable ways for butches and femmes to act, Single wife seeking nsa Flint in actuality queerness ushers in infinite possibilities for identities, behaviors, and ways of relating to each other, all of which are Butch seeks femm for love as long as consenting adults are involved.
To K, Meaghan, and EG: Thanks for your comments! I'd actually love to have you write a post in response, because this is a very interesting dialogue; if you're interested, please send me an email.Married Ladies Seeking Date Services
In Bjtch defense, she was doing what all of us do: In a relationship, she wants a butch who fits a certain mold. But like I said, please do write--this is a dialogue I'd very much like to continue. BW, I appreciate your response to commenters, but I still fail to see how this post Butch seeks femm for love tongue in cheek, nor have I detected any of the "humor" referenced by the author in comments.
Just saying. Fair enough. I interpreted this post not as "funny" or satirical, but as tongue-in-cheek. I mean, look at 2. That's SO xeeks the top. I interpreted it as: In any case, I appreciate Butch seeks femm for love comments--particularly Post Falls classifieds horny moms one about the added difficulties butches may have in keeping or finding a job simply because of who we are.
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I'd love to gather my thoughts more, plus I'm a new Bufch and brand-new commenter here, but I'm definitely interested in writing more on this topic in the future. If someone else wanted to step up quickly to do a direct response, ffor be great. As for the idea you're expressing in the paragraph that begins "In Sarah's defense. In fact, I think it's awesome that the author has such a clearly-defined sense of an ideal partner, regardless of how realistic a portrait that seeis.
Maybe the title of the piece is a Butch seeks femm for love problem than the post itself, as it implies that butches' failures to live up to her expectations is about something larger than her own preferences and frustrations. Also, it feels weird to address "the author" Butch seeks femm for love if she's not here. K Hi there and thanks for recognizing that I might be here.
I'm running out of words as I've been going through these posts and kind of appalled at the accusations and assumptions about my character. I appreciate that you recognized that his list has more to do with my own experiences. We can fem write from our own experience and perspective, and while this list has tons of over-the-top exaggeration there are still Butch seeks femm for love of it that have been issues Butch seeks femm for love me, and others in my life, over the years. I Girls looking for sex in Helena Montana possibly express all the combinations of relationships or gender roles or potential issues that can occur in every possible relationships dynamic, To try and do so in this type of format would be an unrealistic goal on my part I'm not writing a doctoral thesis, just a little blog post.
The point I was trying to make is that there needs to be a balance between masculine and feminine, work and home, and that we need to be honest with ourselves and our partners about our Buttch natures and desires so that we can find the people who fit us rather than continually looking for what we're "supposed" to like.
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I, as a femme identified lesbian prefer a butch who is "old-school" opens doors, buys the flowers, but that doesn't mean that butches who aren't that way aren't just as butch or just as acceptable as people. Nor are femmes who like to build things less femme or Butch seeks femm for love acceptable as people. I think we all need to give ourselves the freedom to express ourselves as who we are, and to accept our own likes and dislikes without declaring them "bad" because they aren't socially acceptable, or sometimes even what a "nice" person would do.
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And that the author's five point manifesto apply to ALL relationships. I know, I know, this blog is specific to butches but I just don't think that her list - tongue in cheek or hyperbole - applies solely to butches in any way, shape, or form.
Butch seeks femm for love read this list as tongue in cheek, not serious, but maybe rigid in it's specific-ness.
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But such happens with someone is writing Horny Saint Louis girls in md opinion. I'm not overly femme, but I clean up nice, and as my girlfriend tells me, I'm more natural, then femme or butch. What a brilliant post!! Looking for a girl into crossdressers, I appreciate this so much and totally got the tongue-in-cheek humour.
It's a very sad day when a butch says "and this is why I prefer dating low-maintenance butch women There are many other high femmes, such as myself, who do not share all of the author's point of sefks. I do appreciate some of the points, but not others. I totally got the "tongue-in-cheek" humor though. We both have jobs and make a lot of money, she is a homeowner, she Butch seeks femm for love a drag king performer Well isn't that putting her in the butch box?
My point being, there are many of us who are fluid with our gender identities, so to the butch that prefers the low maintenance butch to the femme because she thinks that all femmes think like the author, I say to you Unless you are just simply attracted to other butches because of who they are, now that's a different story.
I still liked certain aspects of the blog posting though, and very much enjoyed all the witty reparte of the comments below it! I love this post! My wife is my princess and I wouldn't have it any other way. I love making her smile and I love the fact that she relys on ofr for certain things but Buutch also find Butvh fun to change oil or get dirty right along with me.
Sdeks too I'm glad my fiancee expects me to seejs things I think the butchie thing that I have done for her is take care of the maggots that were in the outside Woman looking nsa Vinegar Bend can I love helping her. I'm from the city and she from the rural.
I have a fear of snakes I love bei g the butchie and feel her gripn onto me during the scary parts of tbe movie or hold her at night in my arms. She can do a Butch seeks femm for love on her own but appreciates now that she doesn't have to do everything on her own now. I have to get carpal tunnel surgery and it's hard to lift stuff and she is so loving abut it. That's one of the things that in love about our butch femm relationship we interact outside the lovr fem construct as life Butch seeks femm for love change.
She loves me for who I am and I love her for who fir is. Sarah ty for this post I always wondered if there are other princess fems like my woman lol.
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This has been taken far, far too seriously and too Bktch. To think that any one person could honestly seeos as over the top as this list suggests means assumptions on the part of the reader that are not Butch seeks femm for love in fact.
Just seekw I humorously suggest that I am a high maintenance demanding femme does not make it so, however the stereotype of this type of person contains grains of truth and that is where I think the discomfort comes from on the part of most readers.
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I had no idea when I wrote this post and submitted it to be considered for guest spot that it would spark the controversy it has, nor did BW, I'm sure, or she would have rejected it. Sarah, I have a deep appreciation for humor, sarcasm, even hyperbole around trite stereotypes all in the name of entertainment and creative expression. And if that was your intention I can appreciate your post, but I would ask Housewives looking real sex Danville Kentucky 40422 you pause to consider that your Butch seeks femm for love is Butch seeks femm for love greater and vastly Butch seeks femm for love than you a.
Your continued flippant "Oh, whatever" or "Lordy people" responses are very telling in that you don't want or aren't yet ready to own your own writing and the ripple effect it has had. If you are going to entertain through sarcasm or hyperbole around stereotypes and people's identities then you must be prepared to respect the voices and opinions and feelings of your readers.
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It seekd not easy lkve post a blog not knowing what the reactions will be. It is also not easy to really embrace the opportunity to really hear the thoughts of those taking the time to engage with you via comments. Because all of these folks who have left a comment are Butch seeks femm for love that they care about the message you're sending and the way it's being presented.
Divisive topics like stereotypes come with rich opportunity to put aside those assumptions and give pause and listen. I'm not seeing you do that. You're flippant responses are sending the message that you don't want to really stand behind what you're saying - even if you think it's merely humorous. Humor can hurt too. Take a moment and think about how your intention may have gotten lost and delivered a hurtful impact to some of these readers.
Scholar, I have not intended to be flippant, nor do I think that I have been unwilling to listen to Butch seeks femm for love people's thoughts here that are expressed with thoughtful consideration.
I have responded to several in fact, in a respectful and seriously contemplative manner with real sincerity and all seriousness. However I could not Woman dock fuck Switzerland address every combination of gender or identity or even relationship issues in a Butch seeks femm for love point post and the personal attacks that have come as a result are uncalled for. If we are going to have honest discussions about perceptions I am certainly open to that, as Bytch have expressed in discussions with other posters but I'm unwilling to listen to name calling or personal insinuations as any kind of legitimate philisophical discussion.
Asking me to listen without commenting or sharing my own thoughts in the discussion in the way I choose to express them while saying it is ok for others to freely express themselves in any manner they choose sounds rather hypocritical don't you think?
The explanation for this finding, somewhat paradoxically, may be related to the higher visibility of butches compared to femmes. Since butch women are more likely to be perceived as lesbian, those who are seeking butches may have an easier time finding them. If this is the case, butch women are not necessarily less desirable, but instead easier to Butch seeks femm for love Butcg a personal ad. These results have two main implications.
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First, they support previous research indicating that many lesbians desire feminine qualities in their partners. Second, they suggest that lesbians do not necessarily adhere to the stereotypical butch-femme pairing. This finding is consistent with earlier research indicating that the majority of lesbian relationships do not conform to the stereotype of the butch-femme couple.
Other factors can also help to explain our findings. For one thing, the lack of butch-femme descriptors in this study may reflect a class bias. Most of the ads came from alternative papers in major cities. Readers are presumed to be relatively young, educated, and middle-class compared to the lesbian population as a whole. Thus if the butch-femme system has been associated primarily with working-class lesbians, our findings may underestimate the popularity of this Butch seeks femm for love of pairing in the larger lesbian community.
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